Angry sibling

My younger sister tends to get angry for somewhat trivial reasons. She thinks that I'm 'uncool' and will freak out at me if I sing/dance/do anything she deems 'too embarrassing' for her to be seen with in public. She has kicked/punched me on these occurrences. She's in middle school, so it's not like these are toddler tantrums. Does anyone have any advice for dealing with this type of situation?

ollcolline's picture

Ask her, durectly, why your actions affect her in this way. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all, but teach out to her and try to understand. If you can start a conversation that's measured and rational, that's a step in the right direction. Also, tell her how YOU feel. Don't be afraid to let her know that her anger is affecting you. Often, people get angry and don't consider the consequences of their anger. Make her realize and understand your perspective.

JEBtheGamer1's picture

I was like this in middle school, so I can relate to your sister. I don't know if there's anything you can do. Asking her might make her angry. What's best is probably to give her some space. Telling how you feel could help, and hopefully she will grow out of it, or learn that getting angry like that isn't any help, to her or anyone else.

Sick_boi4evr's picture

Oooh I have a little brother just like this. He gets really angry at little things like being unable to understand schoolwork or losing at a sports video game, to the point where he will throw the controller and start crying. My best advice when dealing with an angry sibling is to let them cool down, because being their sibling, you are the one that's most likely to make them angry again. Telling them to "calm down" will almost definitely not help. :P good luck!

ThePaddler's picture

From my experiences don't engage but don't just ignore her because that may just make her angrier, ask why she thinks that you are uncool. Try not to ask in a falsely calm voice either.

SequoyahB's picture

I have this same problem sometimes but not because I'm "embarrassing" he just gets upset for no reason sometimes but when when this happens I just get away from him and let him cool down

Elisabeth's picture

My younger brother is angry all the time too. He is rude and embarrassed to go anywhere with any one in my family. If he is incredibly rude, he storms off so I leave him alone to calm down. Most times I find that if I stay with him, but don't engage him in conversation, he calms down and is eventually happy in my presence.