Boyfriend's moving away?

My boyfriend just broke up with me because he's moving away and we may never see each other again. He said that it was the right thing to do so that we can both move on, meet new people and not feel held back by the other. I understand all this, and I get that long distance relationships never work, but I can't bring myself to let go. I just can't cut all ties and move on, because I still love him and I'm pretty sure he still loves me. I don't know what to do. I want to keep texting and calling him, even if it's just as friends, to keep in contact and make sure he's okay but I know that that will just make the breakup even more difficult. The alternative is moving on and only keeping minimal contact, but I don't think I can handle that. He says that that's what he's going to do. Will it get better? Quickly? Or will it be as bad as I'm imagining, and worse? I know that it will make it so much easier for us to find other people but at this point I don't want anyone else, and I don't want him to want anyone else. I don't want him to go. Please someone help.

alleykat234's picture

well, from experience, long distsnce relationships absolutely are a drag (my opinion) because youre so fsr apart and well talking online wont compare to the real deal face to face. honestly if i were in your shoes i would try moving on, sometimes a little time on your own will let you explore yourself and your options, this sometimes puts people in an awlard position because i know how it feels wanting to tell them everything about your day and losing that part of your life. but try to move on, even if its just for a little bit, because after a little time it might heal your wounds and you can stay in touch as friends

anonymous's picture

Thanks for the reply... you're right, moving on is probably the best choice, especially if it serves to heal our wounds so that we can stay in touch as friends.

callmemaliya's picture

long distance relationships are a lot harder. I don't think you still having feelings is a bad thing. it's normal. but trying to break away from that bond is also good. try and meet new people and make new relationships. at this point in time that's probably the only thing you can do !:/

edee's picture

i think that sometimes you have to move on and do your own thing. Achieve your own goals and aspirations and have fun while your doing it. Doesnt mean you still cant talk to them. I beleive that everything happens for a reason and if you are meant to be with someone it will find a way.

Annalise Jose's picture

Break ups are always hard, but from what ive seen from friends that have been in long distance relationships the mental and emotional effects on their well-being is not healthy and it also effected their ability to enjoy other aspects of their life that they once loved to do because they were to busy worrying what their partner was doing and if they still loved each other.
My advice to you and any others going through this similar situation, is that the break up is the way to go and by surrounding yourself with positive friends and family will help take your mind off he or she. Also by setting some life goals to do with yourself can help you focus on bettering yourself and take your mind off the breakup. This could be simply exercising to become more fitter or involving yourself in something new at school or in your community.
These things along with time will help you through the break up. Just remember try and stay positive and look on the positive side of things.
I hope this Helps

Snick's picture

Although, I feel emotionally disturbed after breaking up my relationship with my girlfriend, but I have decided to run no contact rule, because it will make her feel my absence, and she will automatically try to get back to me some day.