when are you aloud to have sex?

i've heard so many stories of people under the age of 18 having sex, is it illegal? and what are the age difference your aloud to have have sex with without is being illegal? are people under the age having sex because their seeing everything online or is because their maturing faster?

ZoeW's picture

In terms of law, I don't actually know, but teens have started having sex at younger ages for a multitude of reasons. For many, it simply isn't a big deal and enjoy casual sex. For others they can see a large portion of their peers start doing it, and want to fit in. It's completely fine to want to try sex, but make sure you're with someone you can trust, in a safe environment, with proper protection (ex. condoms) also make sure you understand what it is you'll be doing, and that your partner will respect that there may some things you're uncomfortable with. It's also totally fine to be completely uninterested in sex! Don't feel pressured to do something you're not comfortable with just because everyone else is doing it. So long as you're not hurting anybody, do what makes you happy

JEBtheGamer1's picture

I think it's legal to have sex when you're underage (at least in some countries) but I don't know the actual ages. There's a couple restrictions as well to stop pedophilia, such as an age gap cannot be too big. Also, no recording or distribution, obviously.

I think more people are having sex because of what they see online, but that could also be making them mature faster.

Lu123's picture

I'm pretty sure that if you're underage then your partner has to be within a certain amount of years. An important thing is having consent between both partners (I recommend watching the consent with tea on YouTube, it's very good) anyways don't feel as if you need to have sex before a certain age. Do it when you are ready and don't let other people influence your decision if you don't want to.

Rhys's picture

when your 16

helen.reriti's picture


Hi guys - It is leagal in New Zealand for young men and young women to have sex once they are both 16.

This is called the Age of Consent - the same law applies to sexual relations between young people of the same sex.

Check out the law at: www.familyplanning.org.nz/advice/taking-care-of-yourself/the-law